No one cares about your wedding

...as much as you do. And that’s okay. 

 

It can be weird, when you’re caught up in the whirlwind planning of the happiest day of your life, to realise that others peoples lives are not all-consumed with your table plans, pinterest boards and fabric swatches. You’re not a selfish person, but to you, it’s all about the wedding and it’s crazy that other people aren’t as excited. 

 

I’m lucky in that there are a few people in my life who put up with me talking about the wedding all the time. To me, the wedding is the most exciting thing happening (at least this side of the honeymoon) and I’m spending so much time planning every detail that I don’t have much else to tell you when we catch up. But I am aware I am doing it, and I promise I’m trying to stop… unsuccessfully.

 

However, it is important to remember that it is your wedding. Although your friends and family are probably really excited for you, it doesn’t consume their every waking moment. They might be quite busy at work and so not be able to check out every link about fake flowers vs real flowers that you may send them. They might not be able to move prior plans to attend your Hen Party, or be there for every bridesmaid thing you want them to come to. 

 

That doesn’t mean they don’t care. 

 

They just don’t need to care as much as you. It’s not their wedding. 

 

So before you get annoyed that they aren’t talking much in the group message, or that they can’t take a day off work for a wedding fair on the other side of the country, remember that this day is yours. They’re not necessarily a bad friend (although some people are of course, just not my friends. They're amazing), they just have a life outside of your wedding.

 

And on the day, chances are, for them it will be all about you, your new spouse and your wedding. Until then, give them a break! 

Outdoor Weddings in England: What you need to know (and what I wish I’d have known!)

Outdoor Weddings in England: What you need to know (and what I wish I’d have known!)

So Steven and I decided pretty early on that we wanted an outdoor wedding. I can’t remember exactly where it came from, but once we’d considered it, our hearts were set and we were determined to do this wedding thing in the open air. We thought it would be lovely, romantic, easy and cheap.

 

The first of these two, only time will tell, but the second two were 100% wrong. 

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Traditional Confetti Alternatives

Traditional Confetti Alternatives

More and more venues are banning traditional paper confetti due to the environment (& of course the even more traditional rice isn't a good option either due to the danger it puts the wildlife in) so what do you do if you still want to lob something at the happy couple to express your elation?

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Children at a Wedding - Yes or No?

Children at a Wedding - Yes or No?

Steven and I never really had a discussion about whether we should allow children at our wedding. Both of our families have a lot of children in them (we have 10 niblings between us!), and I just couldn’t imagine the day without them. Sticky fingers on my dress, sugar-rush induced running around and lots of noise - I wouldn’t want it any other way.

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It's 2016 and It's His Wedding Too.

It's 2016 and It's His Wedding Too.

One of my favourite things about Steven, about our entire relationship infact, is the way that we don’t prescribe to the classic couple tropes. He listens to me, we both do our fair share around the house (infact, there’s a chance that he often does more…!) and I don’t have to spend Friday nights with wine and gal pals whinging about him. It’s pretty great.

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I'm Getting Married!

I'm Getting Married!

Holy crap balls, I am engaged. I, Codie Louise Austin, who has no matching socks or earrings, who would eat chocolate for breakfast every day, who still thinks farts are hilarious, am getting married! For as long as I can remember, Steven and I have discussed marriage. It’s always seemed like a given, the only question was when? As a couple who can’t keep anything from each other, I knew it was going to be this year, but as someone who can’t deal with surprises and not knowing things it’s been difficult!

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My Optimism has Failed Me...

My Optimism has Failed Me...

Generally, in my everyday life, I’d like to think of myself as pretty low-maintenance. When it comes to buying gifts, for example, family and friends often remark how easy it is to buy for me. I don’t want diamonds or designer clothes, a battered old book, novelty socks or craft supplies would make me much happier!

So when it came to planning for the wedding, I figured my vision of a beautiful, outside, rustic-themed ceremony was pretty low-maintenance too...

How bloody wrong I was!

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